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When you failed at something you worked really hard for
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It's not over. Keep going. Try again.
This happened to me today. I worked very hard for something... and I failed. Admittedly, I did not quit my full-time job. But other than that, I tried my best. I woke up 2 hours early. I hired outside help. I bought the required materials. I shirked other responsibilities. I neglected friends. I left important parties early. I got enough sleep. In spite of my best efforts, I failed. Worse, I feel like a failure too. It's tough to not take it personally. I put my all into it, and it wasn't enough. I failed. I suck. I'm a miserable piece of shit. I don't want to try again. I can't. I don't want to fail again.
So I went on to r/getmotivated to look for something - anything - to pick me up after a failure. I didn't find it. It felt like another failure. These 'wolves' are on their path out of laziness, trying to motivate themselves upward out of a plateau, toward trying. Trying anything at all. What if you already tried? They were not trying to recover after a horribly crushing defeat.
I've always believed true motivation comes from within. So even though I didn't find it here, I knew what I was looking for. I just needed a moment of reflection and quiet to find it. I'll articulate it for those of you who need encouragement after a failure:
I can't pretend this defeat doesn't affect me. People are right to be scared. Fear of failure is not just bullshit. It's a way to protect you from figuratively breaking your own heart, like what happened to me. Fear is real. But fear is not important. It just means you care about this. It's important to care about things because that's what life is all about. There's no meaning to not trying. So if you care about it, if you truly want it, you MUST try again.
It's not over. Keep going. Try again.
Top Comment: the same exact thing happened to me man. thank you for posting this and the fact that im not the only one going through this really helps. WE.WILL.NOT.STOP.UNTIL.WE.TASTE.VICTORY
“Hard Fail” what is it?
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Got a few cases today that were recently added, had no previous visits listed, but had a few case notes from a manager. One of the notes added to all 3 cases was: “Case completed by an Enumerator who had hard failed AFTER they had hard failed, deactivated and the ACO was notified. The case was not eligible for rework as coded”. So what exactly is “Hard failed”. Is this like the term “Hard Refusal”. Is this a technical term?
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It is when an enumerator has been supposedly caught entering false data to cases worked. They are then fired and all work previously done will be reworked.
I really cant see where they realy have a right to point a finger at anyone right now,lol. They are the ones telling us to guess a households count ! Lol Double standard if you ask me, but still no good for enumerator to be doing.
Have you ever tried your HARDEST and fail?
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This is it.
You've decided to grab hold of your life and finally try your best. Gone is the old you, welcome the new you. You've studied for this exam time and time again, this is the first time you're ever trying this hard. Today is the day it all changes. The day where your name will be up there with the smart kids. The day you turn your life around and change into a new you!
And then you failed to reach that goal.
You feel heartbroken and betrayed. All that effort, for naught.
It's frustrating. So frustrating you could have cried tears of blood.
'I tried my best!'
'I aimed for the top!'
And you couldn't even make it to the top, instead only barely above average.
You told yourself that you would pass, that you (and maybe some other people who you love) believed in you. And you failed yourself and them.
This is the point where most people give up.
I'm here to tell you not to give up. Yes, nothing may seem to change. Yes, all that effort seems wasted. Yes, you want to just abandon everything.
But you must not give a fuck about that depressing thought.
You now know how to actually try. Efforts didn't betray you, it's simply that the people around you have tried hard for longer than you did. You found your mistakes, and you can fix them next time. Use the failure of today to march into tomorrow bravely, don't give in to the thoughts of failure. Give them no fucks and walk bravely towards your own goals. It's normal to fail, but that doesn't mean you should let it stop you. And even if you didn't reach your dream, you can still proudly say that you gave it your all.
I don't know why I suddenly want to type this, but I just want you all to not give up not give a fuck on the depressing and negative thoughts. Good luck to you all and may the odds be with you.
Top Comment: absolutely my mans. you generally do not have control over whether you fuck up or not in life. life is almost entirely a series of mistakes, anyone who says otherwise is lying. the idea is to learn from them and not make them over and over, at least not too often
[Question] People who've worked really hard towards something and failed, what did you learn/how did you move on?
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I have a huge fear of failure. Please help me overcome it.
Top Comment: I tried to get into medical school 6 times and failed every time. Eventually I started to look at it like at an only one thing of many that I cannot do. I also can do things which accomplished doctors cannot. It's not about forgetting or joking about my failed dreams, whatever they were. It's about seeing the big picture. Dreaming about something is great, working hard towards it too, but burning up trying to get it and constantly failing is not the best idea. So what should you do? Stop fearing failure is my suggestion. I know what I'm talking about; I failed miserably every time I tried to get into med school. I'm not telling you to give up by the way. When you look at the thing you want from a distance, so to speak, you can also assess more easily what you need to work on, what about you/in you is good enough and then focus on developing discipline. EDIT: Since people asked, I'm not trying anymore. I chose a software developing career and am trying to land an internship or a junior position after developing my skills in the very near future (this summer I definitely want to work somewhere). Also, while trying to get into med school I worked in another field and have enough experience to work more or less comfortably. I''m not happy with the money though, hence the switch to programming.
AskMen, When Did You Try Your Hardest and Still Fail?
Main Post: AskMen, When Did You Try Your Hardest and Still Fail?
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Keeping my wife alive. I put everything I had into it. My time and energy, and my savings, then my credit cards. We started winning, she was getting better, only to lose her to an infection. I kick myself every day for allowing it to happen. I was worn out, a year of stress, 3months where I was getting about 4hrs sleep a day. My blood pressure was so high my nose was bleeding all the time and one time I thought I was in an earthquake but no one else in the room was looking worried. But they are exceuses. I still failed her and it cost her, her life.
[Serious] Reddit how do you bounce back from failure in life?
Main Post: [Serious] Reddit how do you bounce back from failure in life?
Top Comment: I forgive myself. Kicking myself over past failures won't change what happened, it will just leave me sore from being kicked so much. So I've given up all hope for a better past. I own who I've been so it doesn't own me.
I failed
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Just joined the community :) Failed on day 10, thinking of restarting tomorrow. Need some encouragement
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Remember why you started this challenge in the beginning. You were honest with yourself to admit that you failed. I believe that you were honest because believe or have already seen some changes in yourself. You’ve got 10 days of practice under your belt, you’re ready for day 1!
Why is everyone here ranting that hard drives might fail any time???
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No offence guys. Just curious.
Honestly, I don't get it. I own this HP Pavillion Notebook. It has a WD Blue 1TB inside. I've literally dropped my laptop more than once on stone-hard floor. And to this day, not one single byte of data stored in the drive has given me any problem. I've formatted it countless times, and have been using my laptop for almost 5 years and I've used it more than 6 hours a day during this past year. I've also stored and deleted a lot of data.
So... yea, why does everyone here keep telling me they might fail right now?
Top Comment: Cause they might. But I have had similar experiences to you. I've got a dozen drives sitting on my desk that all work. And have for 15+ years. The only ones that don't work came from a friend who got them free. Apparently they were pulled from service for a reason. I ignorantly tossed them in my NAS without checking so that's on me. But HDs fail. I forget the website but there are graphs showing the chance if failure. It's around 3-5% for most brands iirc.
Y’all ever study really hard for a test and just fail it anyway 🙃
Main Post: Y’all ever study really hard for a test and just fail it anyway 🙃
Top Comment: My first calc test last month I probably studied close to 25 hours for just that test. Was sure I got an A on it and ended up getting a C so I feel you
How often does a Hard Drive fail and what can you do about it if it does?
Main Post: How often does a Hard Drive fail and what can you do about it if it does?
Top Comment: Take a look at Google's disk failure study . Generally, hard disk reliability is bimodal, with some fraction of drives prone to early failures, accelerated by heavy use ("infant mortality"), and the rest surviving for many years with the occasional drop-outs. This usually works out to a few percent per year. Some drive models are more or less reliable than others, but we usually don't know which those are until years after the fact, and none of the manufacturers are consistent. You can reduce the risk of infant mortality by running a couple passes of badblocks on a drive before actually putting your data on it. This helps to weed out disks with manufacturing defects. As to what to do if your disk fails, the best response is of course to replace the disk and restore your data from your frequently updated and securely stored backups, which everyone should be keeping. If you don't have backups and your disk has already failed, you can take it to a data recovery company that will charge from a few hundred to a thousand dollars. Or, if you have a friend who is a Linux nerd, they'll point GNU ddrescue at it, try to repair your filesystems, and help with file carving if you ask nicely. This usually works unless there's been serious physical damage. Your friend would probably appreciate a couple cases of Dr Pepper.